Is my relationship healthy?

Understand the difference between love and lust, actions and words. Does he love me? Is my relationship healthy?  

Real Love

I haven't been a healthy long term relationship in a while. That is why I'm the perfect person to tell you what an unhealthy relationship feels like. As women I do believe we have a 6th sense which is known as our intuition. I was told by an older male friend once that 9 times out of 10 we can feel that something is not right with our partner or the man we are pursuing but we ignore it because we love them, don't want to be alone, think we can change them, the list goes on and on... I truly believe this theory. Like Steve Harvey said "All men can change and all men will change but there's only one woman that we're going to change for. It's just one. We don't change for all women, we only change for one woman. If he ain't changing, it's cause you ain't the one." Harsh words but true.

That being said, I challenge you ladies to take a long look at your relationship and ask yourself if it's truly healthy? Can you see yourself with this person long term? 

A couple hints that you're in an unhealthy relationship is: 

The person you're dating is all about self and what you can do for them. This includes sex, cooking, cleaning etc. There is no problem with these things but you should be receiving the same treatment. A relationship is about what you can give, not what you can get and you'll find that when you're worried about your partner and not yourself, on both ends of the spectrum, you will always have everything you need. A healthy relationship is 50/50.

They only see you at their convenience. Not only have I been there but I have a few friends who have been there as well. Understand the difference between a person making time and dealing with you in their spare time. If someone wants to be with you they will find a million ways, if they don't, they'll find a million excuses. 

You find yourself making excuses for their actions. This is a red flag, when your partner is blatantly disrespecting you and you're constantly excusing their actions to friends and family, something is wrong.

So I beg you ladies to pay attention! Recognize effort if a man is trying to fix things but if you constantly express how you feel to your partner and you're being ignored, MOVE ON! The only thing worse than wasting a year with someone is wasting a year and a day.